The repercussions of infidelity

Infidelity, as defined by wikipedia, can be defined as any violation of the mutually agreed-upon rules or boundaries of a relationship, and is a breach of faith in an inter-personal relationship. As I've stated in my previous article about being content with your current partner, the foundation of a very happy and successful relationship are "love" and "trust". After discussing the first foundation in the first article, it's time to move on to the next foundation "trust"

In relationships, there will always be people who will test your faithfulness and loyalty to your partner. He/she may be an old high school lover, fling, or simply an acquaintance you met at some party. Harmless ? Some might think so, but people of weak foundations are bound to do the following:

1.) Contrasting the new against the old: - When your partner gets reacquainted with an old romance, chances are he/she may start comparing you to the "new". If you feel a slight change in his/her attitude, demeanor, then he/she is already "weighing" the both of you. In business terms, which one of you would be the best "investment".

2.) Frequent disappearances: - are you being stood up by your partner? Does he/she give you a pathetic reason like "I was sick" then a friend of yours coincidentally sees your partner in a coffee shop with the ‘new'. During this stage, your partner is already going to the dark side of infidelity.

3.) Avoidance: - he / she avoid you like you're not even in a relationship with them. You're dates, get-togethers won't be as important to him/her before. They might even think that you're too clingy and they're going to tell you that you give them space.

4.) The most painful excuse of all "I just don't think things are working out between us anymore. We need to start seeing other people." : - this excuse has got to be the most pathetic attempt at saying "I found somebody else, I don't love you anymore". The bitter truth is better than sugar-coated bullshit. For some that excuse is even an insult because it just shows that their partner has proven that they are weak.

Some people even blame that lack of sex is the reason why they cheat on their partners; that the lack of intimacy is a driving force into the dark side. This reason is even more pathetic, as the mentality of some couples that sex is a must when in a relationship. They tend to forget that the basis of starting a relationship is the fact that you have someone to share your happiness, dreams, and frustrations with. If a person only wants sex, then he/she doesn't need to bother looking for relationships. That way, they can avoid hurting their future partners that don't even deserve to be hurt.

That's my opinion anyway on what a relationship should be.